The truth about health or relationships can sometimes entail pain and regret. Is it better to stay in the dark?
The worst thing about being lied at is knowing that you not worth the truth. In most cases people ask you questions knowing the answer already. Even the bible supports the notion, “and ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free.” ( John 8:32)
Many truths are painful to hear initially but we still think it’s valuable to learn them. Finding out that your new boss hates the reports you’ve been handing in can be disheartening at first, but it seems better to know this in the long run. Other truths, though, make us feel bad without actually helping us in any way. If you have a terminal illness that’s completely untreatable, you might genuinely be happier living your last months in ignorance. A diagnosis might allow you to seek treatment giving you an extra month of life, but if that extra month is riddled with fear and sadness, it might not be worth it. In these cases, it seems like ignorance really might be preferable.
But the benefits to me as an individual are not the only reason I might value knowing the truth. The things we choose to know and ignore sometimes have consequences for people other than ourselves. It doesn’t benefit me much to know that there are people in the developing world dying of malnutrition. But most people would agree that it’s better to know that there are others who need our help.
But even if the truth is valuable in itself, that doesn’t mean it’s always better to know. There might still be situations where we should choose ignorance. Indeed, it’s important to distinguish here between intrinsic value and overriding value. Saying that truth has intrinsic value means that something being true is a reason in favor of believing it, and that it might sometimes be good to pursue the truth even when it’s not useful for anything else. It doesn’t mean that the truth is so valuable as to override other things we might value: like pleasure and beauty, for example. So even if truth is intrinsically valuable, we still have to weigh up costs and benefits.
Personally, I don’t think we “know” much at all, no matter the intelligence level. The more you learn, the more you realize how little you know, so I completely disagree with whoever says “knowing too much is bad.” There are uncomfortable truths, which might be what scares you, but personally, I’d much rather prefer an uncomfortable truth over a comforting fantasy. Many people have a hard time dealing with these uncomfortable truths and refuse to acknowledge it, so I guess it depends on the person’s mental fortitude, but I think it’s much better to understand things for what they really are than to persist in delusion. It’s a crazy world, and knowing certain things might be scary, because, let’s face it: there are some scary things/people out there, but it is what it is. Ignoring truths or abandoning rational thought is much scarier to me.
When it comes to relationships i feel it is all based on honesty, it either builds or breaks up relationships. That is why pathological lairs never find peace and tranquility in their love life. I do not dispute the fact that love can be blind but the moment one learns their partner is cheating all the trust is lost which will take time and extra effort to regain and this puts the relationship on a thin line.
Many people feel that little white lies, which may spare their partner some grief are okay, and in some cases that’s true. But you can’t have a culture of honesty in your relationship just some of the time. If you tend to omit or color the truth, so things look a better, it could actually damage your relationship at a core level. Trying to “protect” your partner or just trying to avoid looking bad can create more trouble than it’s worth. It is best to be above board in all your dealings.What honesty gives you is a great deal of comfort. Knowing you can implicitly trust your mate allows you to be your best self, and your relationship will continue to thrive because you are able to give each other the positive energy you need to navigate life’s ups and downs.
Honesty is a way of life, not just a behavior. Keeping it paramount in your relationship it will bring in more good and keep the bad stuff at bay. Knowing you can totally trust one another brings a type of freedom and comfort that helps your relationship work in the best way possible. In summation knowing the truth is a good thing because it help one plan for their future and take caution or make particular decisions whilst thy have enough time on their hands.